10 Causes of Low Self-Esteem
Do you suffer from low self-esteem and wonder about the source of your feelings of inadequacy?
There are many potential sources of low self-esteem. It has been said that we spend the last 60 years of life recovering from the first 18.
In many cases, the first 18 years of life give our self-esteem a beating. Adults aren't immune from self-esteem issues either.
Increasing your self-esteem will enrich your life in countless ways. Your social life, finances, and happiness can all grow.
Determine the cause of your self-esteem challenges:
This is especially true during the school-age years, but can apply to adults as well.
It's natural to want to be respected and liked by one's peers. Bullying, teasing, and other social-related issues can result in a loss of self-esteem.
Some parents just aren't nice people. Unsupportive, critical parents or other family members can harm a child's self-esteem.
This can be then be carried into adulthood. If your parents were less than spectacular, remember that you're not alone.
3. Previous mistakes.
Everyone makes mistakes, but some people forgive themselves more easily than others.
The past is over. Look forward to new experiences.
4. Negative recurring thoughts.
Negative thought patterns over years and decades can create a negative self-image.
That's why it's so important to say positive things to yourself. Avoid underestimating the power of your thoughts.
Whether you failed to win the big game or land the big client, any perceived failure can result in a loss of confidence and self-esteem.
Reframe how you view failure. Learn from your undesirable results. Only get upset with yourself if you continue to fail in the same manner. Change your approach if it isn't working.
6. Unreasonable goals.
Goals that are too big lead to failure. Ensure that your goals are challenging, but within reason for you.
Getting too carried away increases the likelihood of a negative outcome and poor self-esteem.
7. Body Image.
Society judges people based on appearances. You might be doing the same to yourself.
Strive to move your body toward a healthy ideal, but accept that everyone is shaped differently and change can take time.
Females are more likely to suffer from body image issues, but males can also face challenges.
Trauma can take many forms: sexual, physical, or emotional. Any of these can result in low self-esteem. If you're suffering from the results of traumatic experiences, getting professional help can be a wise decision.
9. Poor academic performance.
School has a social component, but it's supposed to be about the academics.
Poor grades can be viewed as failing the purpose of attending school in the first place. Ensure that your child has the academic support they need to be successful.
Media puts forth images of success and beauty that are out of reach for the average person. It doesn't help that many of those images are manufactured and inaccurate.
Holding yourself to an unreasonable standard causes you to feel bad about yourself. If you must compare yourself to someone, use a reasonable frame of reference.
Low self-esteem is a common issue. Understanding the cause of your low opinion of yourself can help to determine the solution. Everyone deals with low self-esteem days.
But suffering from low self-esteem over a long period of time can lead to depression. Examine your past and find the source of your negative self-image.
Develop a plan for changing your feelings about yourself. Focus on the positive and let go of the past.
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How To Improve How You Feel About Yourself
Let's face it, we all have days where we feel less than perfect about ourselves. Our hair just doesn't seem to fall right, or our clothes are ill-fitting.
Although the occurrence of viewing ourselves in a less than ideal manner is natural, the feeling shouldn't linger.
Sadly, thousands of individuals, unfortunately, feel negative about themselves; albeit their appearance or current circumstance.
In fact, Dr. Joe Rubino, the author of The Self Esteem Book, reported that over 85% of the world's population suffers from having a low self-esteem.
This statistic leaves us with a world full of beautiful people who are unable to see their beauty for themselves.
Are we all doomed to live and die in an unhappy state? Fortunately, the battle of esteem can easily be won. Humans are creatures of habit. How can you overcome a pesky habit? By taking action.
Negative self-thinking is a learned habit that can be conquered by changing the way you think. With a few tips and tricks, you'll be able to heighten your opinion of yourself and live a life of purpose.Repeat Daily Self-Affirmations
Self-affirmations are an excellent way to identify your strengths.
In fact, a research study found that individuals who practiced positive thinking after receiving a serious diagnosis of an illness were able to process the information and develop positive coping strategies.
One excerpt reads, "Two recent sets of research findings suggest that positive beliefs and experiences increase attention to useful self-relevant negative information and thus may facilitate effective coping."
If positive self-thinking can assist with life-altering illnesses, surely it can help you to develop a positive self-image. How do you practice self-affirmations?
It's simple, repeat to yourself reasons why you love yourself. Many like to stare in the mirror and list their positive qualities daily.
Others find success with writing down five to ten of their favorable traits in a notebook.
The key here is to focus on what you appreciate about yourself; not others.
Once you've gotten into the habit of feeding your mind with positivity, you will find that the previous negative voice will be silenced.
Changing your thinking is crucial if you want to raise your self-esteem. You have to believe you are great in order to exude it. Live Well
Living well isn't limited to engaging in exciting activities or making tons of cash. It's a deeper connection to your body, mind, and spirit. The foods you consume have a lot to do with your moods.
In fact, foods high in dairy and processed sugars are recipes for disaster if you're trying to think positively. Being mindful of what you put into your body will make you glow from the inside out!
In addition to eating well, engaging in some sort of physical activity is beneficial to your overall health.
Getting outside and taking in the sun will boost your serotonin, also known as, the happy chemical in your brain.
When you take care of your body, you'll see changes in how you view yourself. You'll become stronger both mentally and physically. Choose Your Company Wisely
Self-esteem starts from within. However, surrounding yourself with positive people will only encourage you to continue to think happy thoughts about yourself.
Choosing companions who honor your strengths and acknowledge how great you are creates a healthy space.
The danger in attempting to improve your self-esteem while surrounding yourself with negative people is that their mentality will eventually rub off on you.
You’ll begin to live in that space of negative thinking without even realizing the repercussions. People who inspire you, motivate you and challenge you are friends that will support your esteem.
They respect you, so they would never intentionally attempt to taint your character. After you’ve established a firm hold on how you view yourself, it will be easy to attract likeminded people who think similarly.
You have to live with yourself for the rest of your life. Why not make the experience a great one! We all have so many unique talents and opportunities to give to the world. It’s only right that we see the beauty we possess within ourselves.
By making the above tips a form of habit, you’ll be well on your way to improving how you see yourself and living a purpose filled life.
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