How To Make Criticism Work For You

It may seem counter-intuitive, but sometimes a critique can be the most impactful thing someone can offer you. It all comes down to what you decide to do with it.

If you’d like to discover how to make criticism work for you, rather than derail you, read on.

Create Distance

When someone says something critical about you, you have some choices to make. Of these choices, one of the most significant is whether or not you choose to be offended.

The stoic philosopher Epictetus said this on the subject, “If someone in the street were entrusted with your body, you would be furious.

Yet you entrust your mind to anyone around who happens to insult you and allow it to be troubled and confused.

"Aren't you ashamed of that?”1

In other words, don’t fall into the trap of allowing the opinions of others to control your emotions and take charge of your mind.

By recognizing that someone’s thoughts about you only have the significance you afford them, you can decide how you will feel, and you see the foolishness of letting other people’s words control you.

This recognition creates distance between what is said and your sense of self-worth, a powerful tool to assist you in navigating snares of modern life such as the attention economy and cancel culture.

Let Life Be Your Teacher

Choosing to learn from each experience you have is profoundly empowering. You don’t have to agree with people or even think they’re intelligent. The important thing is that you can garner lessons from everything you encounter in life.

When someone criticizes you, it’s a great opportunity.

Since you’ve already chosen to create distance and not allow words to offend you, you now have the chance to scan over what was said and see if there’s anything useful there.

You’re ready to learn and grow if possible, transforming the encounter from a trial to a win.

Embrace The Process

Sometimes a little humility goes a long way. When we acknowledge that we’re all works in progress, it doesn’t hurt so much to encounter criticism.

Instead of feeling embarrassed or belittled, you can figure out how the observation might pave the way for improvement.

After all, a lack of growth often leads to stagnation, so we should embrace the process, relishing opportunities to break the mold and move forward.

Criticism Can Cultivate Creativity

Sometimes hearing what is wrong with something you’ve done can pave the way for innovation.

For example, when someone presents you with issues in a proposal you present, or holes in a story you’ve written, it can reveal new ideas that were previously obscured from your view.

This expanded vision is a part of how collaboration works, making more minds better than one.

According to Harvard Business Review, there’s a sweet spot in criticism that recognizes the flaws in something without throwing the baby out with the bathwater.

They refer to this process as “yes, but, and.”

In this scenario, the “yes, but” portion presents the issue with a presented idea, while the “and” portion presents potential solutions.2

By approaching a discussion this way, the critique becomes an invaluable method for creating novel solutions without disregarding a person’s initial concept.

As with many encounters, showing regard for other people’s feelings and perspectives while giving constructive criticism makes for more thorough communication and better outcomes.

Final Thoughts

It isn’t all bad to be criticized, even when the critic has questionable intentions.

When we choose to analyze a person’s words, scan them for utility, and refuse to take them personally, we will always learn from the encounter.

The freedom from releasing the perception of insult paves the way for vast personal improvement while removing potential suffering.

The benefits of criticism are amplified when it is used constructively amongst respectful individuals.

In this ideal scenario, you will be encouraged to elevate your ideas and hone your skills, while being free from personal attack. Thus, being amongst good company is another potent way to make criticism work for you.

References:
1. Salomon, Albert, editor. The Enchiridion. Translated by Thomas Wentworth Higginson, Bobbs-Merrill, 1955. Accessed 19 October 2022.

2. “Why Criticism Is Good for Creativity.” Harvard Business Review, 16 July 2019, https://hbr.org/2019/07/why-criticism-is-good-for-creativity. Accessed 19 October 2022.


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