A Foolproof Formula for Doubling Your Confidence
Confidence is a state of mind, and it’s something that you can build up if you feel like your supply is running low. When you believe in yourself, you feel more secure, and you enjoy greater success.
Most of us have times in our life when fears and doubts undermine our faith in ourselves. You may experience setbacks that leave you feeling helpless. It’s also natural for confidence to fluctuate from day to day or vary from one area of your life to another.
There are concrete actions you can take to empower yourself. Study these tips to put together a foolproof formula for doubling your confidence.
1. Eat healthy. Nourish your body and maintain your energy by choosing nutritious whole foods. Limit your consumption of sugar and salt. Eat more vegetables, legumes, and nuts.
2. Exercise regularly. Physical activity strengthens your body and mind, enhances your body image, and boosts your mood. Find a variety of activities suitable for your fitness level. Find a workout buddy to join you.
3. Sleep well. Most adults need 7 to 8 hours of sleep a night to function well. Establish a regular bedtime and stick to it as closely as possible even on weekends and holidays.
4. Dress up. Do you like what you see in the mirror? Select clothing that flatters your figure. Try a new hairstyle or visit a makeup counter for suggestions.
5. Clean house. Your surroundings can affect your confidence. Fight anxiety by clearing away clutter and maintaining a tidy home.
6. Seek support. Self-confidence comes from within, but you can surround yourself with family and friends who reinforce your positivity. Confide in loved ones who give you constructive feedback and encouragement.
7. Manage stress. You look more confident when you’re calm. Spend time each day engaging in relaxation practices like meditation or listening to music.
8. Have fun. Do things you enjoy. It will help you to discover your strengths and express your creativity. Play with your children or take up a new sport.
Add to Your Achievements:
1. Set goals. Create meaningful goals that give you something to strive for. Make them specific and realistic for you. Write them down and post them some place where you can see them.
2. Give back. Cultivating a sense of gratitude will motivate you to contribute to your community. As you share your blessings, the world will seem safer and friendlier.
3. Stop procrastinating. Do you have a project that you’ve been putting off? Break it down into smaller stages and take a first step. You’ll start building momentum and accelerate your progress.
4. Change a habit. Pick one thing you want to change. You could start by correcting your posture or drinking more water.
5. Study and practice. Increasing your competence can make your confidence soar. Commit yourself to lifelong learning. Read books and take courses online. Become a member of your local museum. Practice an enriching hobby like playing the piano or growing organic vegetables.
6. Learn from experience. Disappointments are inevitable, but they don’t have to shake your faith in yourself. Take pride in putting forth effort and having the courage to go beyond your comfort zone.
7. Think positive. Notice the happy events in your life and look on the bright side of difficult situations. Focus on solutions when you run into trouble. Talk to yourself like a cherished friend with messages that comfort and inspire you.
Healthy confidence is about trusting your ability to handle what comes your way. Take control of your life by making your wellbeing a top priority and working consistently toward your goals.
How to be More Socially Confident
Some people have social confidence to spare. It's easy to see that some children are seemingly born with great social confidence, while others are not. Social confidence seems to come and go for most adults.
A serious lack of social confidence can lead to isolation and stifle career growth. If there's one part of your life in which it pays to be confident, it's in your social interactions.
Use these strategies to increase your social confidence and feel comfortable in all social situations:
1. Practice. Every person that crosses your path is a practice partner for your social skills. The more practice you get, the better you’ll become at interacting with others. The better you become, the more confident you’ll feel. There are all kinds of things you can practice:
◦ Eye contact
◦ Small talk
◦ Non-verbal communication
◦ Telling jokes
◦ And more
2. Rehearse. Imagine yourself being successful socially. Before you head into a social situation, rehearse in your mind. See yourself being confident and competent. Imagine others responding to you in a positive way. In time, you’ll learn to feel the same way out in the real world.
3. Adopt an effective attitude. It’s not a matter of life and death. No one is judging you or spending any of their time thinking about you. In fact, they’re probably wondering what you’re thinking about them.
4. Focus on self-development. When you feel better about yourself, you’ll be more socially confident. Whether that means getting in shape, learning a new skill, or meditation, any enhancements you make will leave you feeling more confident.
5. Learn. Learn about communication. Pick one area, such as nonverbal communication, and become an expert. Then, get out and practice. When you’ve mastered that, pick a new area to learn about. The more you know, the better you’ll become. That leads to real confidence.
6. Avoid the need to be perfect. You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to be the funniest person at the party. You don’t have to be the most charming person in the bar. Perfection is an unreasonable goal that leads to anxiety and a lack of confidence.
7. Join a social group. You know a group of people that hang out together. It might be at work. It might be a friend that has a separate group of friends. See if you can join, too. Finding the right group of people can boost your social confidence.
8. Combine social events with activities you’re good at. Are you a great softball player? Join a softball league. Are you an expert at riding a motorcycle? Join a motorcycle club. Find an activity you excel at and turn it into a social activity.
Think about how much your life would change if you were more socially confident. How would it impact your career? How would your social life be affected?
It's hard to think of any potential downside to having greater social confidence. If you weren't lucky enough to be born with perpetual confidence, you’ll want to grow and nurture this important attribute.
Stopping Self-Sabotage: How to Get Out of Your Own Way
There’s a lot of truth to the quote, “We have met the enemy, and he is us.” We get in our own way far more than life, other people, or bad luck sabotage our success. We really are our own worst enemy. You'd be amazed by how much easier your life would be if you weren't constantly sabotaging your success.
It boggles the mind why we stand in our own way, but we do. Understanding that fact is half the battle to overcoming it.
Try these techniques to stop sabotaging yourself:
1. Let go of the past. Mistakes from the past don’t mean that you’re doomed to failure in the future. The past should be used as educational material, not as a predictor of the future. Leave your past in the past and create the future you desire.
2. Avoid talking to yourself unless you’re going to say something nice. You spend too much time saying negative things to yourself. Eventually, you begin to believe them. Such negative input gives you an incorrect opinion of yourself and your capabilities. Ensure that your self-talk is supportive and positive.
3. Notice your habits that sabotage your success. Think about what you want to be successful at and notice your habits that stand in your way. For example, if you want to lose weight, but you eat a bag of chips every time you're stressed, that habit is sabotaging your success.
4. Define your fear. All self-sabotage is rooted in fear. What exactly are you afraid of? Are you afraid of embarrassing yourself? Are you afraid of finding out that you're not capable? Are you afraid of success? Are you afraid of how people will view you?
5. Know your ceiling. Notice how far you can go before you begin sabotaging yourself. For example, perhaps you're stuck at a particular income level. What income level do you get stuck at? If you're trying to lose weight, at what point do you begin sabotaging yourself? We all have a ceiling for each part of our lives. Understand yours and seek to understand why.
6. Identify and change your beliefs. What are the beliefs that stand in your way? For example, do you believe that you're naturally a chubby person that can never get below a certain weight? Do you believe that you can never be a successful writer because you failed high school English?
The good news is that easier to control yourself than it is to control others or circumstances outside of yourself. Since you are the source of your challenges, you also have the power to eliminate them. Never underestimate how much you’re standing in your own way!What’s your biggest issue?
How do you handle it – or can you think of any additional tips you can share with others if you don’t have an issue with this in your life?
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Cheers, Helene Malmsio
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