Instead of Scolding Yourself for Reactions, Be Kind to Yourself and Analyze Them Instead

The meanest person in the world when it comes to making you feel bad about your reactions is yourself. So often when a person does something, they’ll immediately start berating themselves.

It might be internally with negative self talk or it might be spoken aloud. Everything from “I’m so stupid” to “Only I would do something that ridiculous” can be a form of scolding. So if a lot of people have a tendency to scold themselves for their reactions, then what’s the big deal?

The big deal is that when you scold yourself for what you feel, for what you think or for your reactions, you end up strengthening negative beliefs about yourself. When you do that, it can erode your satisfaction in every area of your life from work to your personal relationships.

You run the risk of getting stuck in a rut of constantly belittling your reactions to everything, even the positive stuff. You have to stop scolding yourself if you want to live your best life.

Rather than scolding yourself, making yourself feel bad, and keeping a negative mindset about yourself, be kind. You deserve kindness from every area of your life, from every person in your life, and you deserve it from yourself.

To stop the cycle of scolding yourself, become aware of why you react the way that you do. More often than not, our reactions are not off the cuff. There’s a reason for the way that we react.

Usually, it’s because we have thought patterns and behaviors that we fall back on in every situation. But the way that you react is what makes you who you are. It’s all the experiences you’ve had in life up to now.

Remember that just because you react a certain way doesn’t make you a bad person. You’re simply a human being who has feelings and you’re doing the best that you can so don’t judge yourself.

Be as kind to yourself as you would to your best friend or to someone you love deeply. Learn to analyze your reactions. When you analyze your reactions, you can learn from them.

By understanding the reason that you do what you do, you can make changes if you need to. Mindfulness can help you to analyze your reactions and you’ll learn why you react that way and you’ll learn self-acceptance, too.

When you accept yourself, it’s easier to be kinder to yourself. You can analyze your reactions by asking yourself what you were thinking or feeling when you reacted the way that you did.

There is so much more to learn about this topic, and you can read all about it in my online guide here: How to do Mindfulness which explains the fundamentals and the step by step process for how to practice mindfulness in your life every day for better body mind spirit balance and general happiness.

You can also learn more by checking out these helpful how to books about how to be mindful that you can order online at amazon and have delivered to your door:

The Art of Being MindfulThe Art of Being Mindful

Being Mindful: Living in the NowBeing Mindful: Living in the Now

Mindful Movements: Ten Exercises for Well-BeingMindful Movements: Ten Exercises for Well-Being

Mindful Being: Mindful Being towards Mindful Living Course (Alchemy of Love Mindfulness Training Book 4)Mindful Being: Mindful Being towards Mindful Living Course (Alchemy of Love Mindfulness Training Book 4)

Mindfulness: Mindfulness For Beginners: 28 Steps To Becoming More Present Through Mindfulness Meditation (Mindfulness, Meditation)Mindfulness: Mindfulness For Beginners: 28 Steps To Becoming More Present Through Mindfulness Meditation (Mindfulness, Meditation)

For the Love of Food and Yoga: A Celebration of Mindful Eating and BeingFor the Love of Food and Yoga: A Celebration of Mindful Eating and Being

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