Relationship Advice - How Do You Communicate?

Some of the best relationship advice involves learning to communicate effectively, but what makes for successful communication within a relationship?

In reality, communication is only effective if both the person talking and the person listening are understanding the same information.

In a relationship that means listening, processing, understanding, and perhaps responding in the way your mate wants you to respond.

Men and women tend to communicate differently, and often each person in the relationship does not realize this.

If you can learn and understand these differences, you're on your way to a better connection with your partner.

Men like to solve problems. They wait and talk only after figuring it out.

They don't throw out seemingly random topics of discussion just to keep the conversation going, they talk with purpose.

Women keep a running dialog going outside their head, trying to draw in their mate, to connect with him and share the problem.

They don’t expect their partner to solve their problem, they just want him to listen, express interest, and commiserate if need be.

Try to take on your mate's style of communicating when you can and see if it doesn't strengthen your relationship.

If your mate gets upset with what she/he feels are your communication, or lack of communication skills, try asking them what they want.

They may say they want you to look at them when they're talking and say "uh huh" periodically like you mean it. Or they might want you to offer solutions without trying to force the one you'd pick.

The first step in communicating effectively, then, is to point blank ask them what they'd like from you.

When your partner is communicating:

* Look your partner in the eyes and focus on what they are saying.

* When your mate wants to talk to you, turn off the TV and any other distractions. Now is not the time to multi-task. If you give your partner the attention they deserve now, the point they want to make will come quicker and should end in a satisfactory manner.

* Don't interrupt. Don't be impatient. Don't get sucked in emotionally. Be attentive.

When you are communicating:

* Try to communicate in the other person's style, or at least a mixture of both.

* Ask them to pay attention to you while you talk and ask for whatever else you need them to do or not do.

* Don't drag on and on; you risk losing them altogether. You need to respect the time you two have. Watch for signs that you've gone too far or too long - body signals, silence, etc.

Good communication skills can help strengthen a relationship.

Learning how your partner likes to communicate is definitely important relationship advice and could really help you two cement your strong bond.

I hope that you have found some helpful tips here for how to build a lasting relationship.

But you always need to keep learning and researching for more help and expert guidance if you want to keep things fresh and current.

If you need help in your communicating you can also get more help here for how to improve relationship communication.

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