Seven Steps to Social Confidence & Essential Social Skills

by Helene

Depending on your natural personality type and your social experiences as a child, you might be the most socially confident person you know or the least. Of course, most of us fall somewhere in the middle.

However, there's always room for improvement, regardless of your current skills and expertise.

Your ability to interact with others impacts your self-concept, career, social life, and personal life.

Life is more fun and a lot easier if you feel confident around others. The skills that make this possible are well-known but can be uncomfortable to develop.

There's no reason not to greatly increase your abilities if you're willing to be a little bold.

Follow these steps to build your confidence around others:

1. Talk to a lot of people.

You become more comfortable with something when you do it a lot. Most confidence issues are based on fear.

By talking to a lot of people, you'll show yourself that there's nothing to be afraid of. Fortunately, there are people everywhere.

Consider getting a part-time job that involves speaking to people. You could be a waiter, salesperson, customer service rep or any other job that requires interacting with others. You'll earn some extra money, too.

Schedule your social life. Be sure you have a few hours of social activity planned into your life each week. Get out of the house and have a little fun with others.

2. Study confident, powerful characters in movies.

Look at movies with strong characters and note how they stand, move, and use eye contact.

What is it that makes them appear so in control and formidable? Which movie character do you wish you could be like? Study them.

3. Have controlled emotional reactions.

Think of James Bond. You could tell him he has mustard on his shirt and a satellite was about to fall on the building.

He would smirk at you, say something funny, and then take another bite of his hotdog before taking any action. The most confident people underreact.

4. Maintain confident eye contact.

Look everyone in the eye with great confidence. You're not in a staring contest, but you can't lower your eyes in deference if you want to be viewed as a powerful person.

Practice your eye contact with everyone that crosses your path.

5. Stand tall.

Slouching and appearing smaller than you really are has no place in your life. Imagine you were the president of the United States and were walking among your greatest supporters. How would you stand?

Try to maintain that same posture whether you're addressing the masses or taking your trash cans to the curb.

6. Create social opportunities.

There are many ways you can make yourself the center of attention.

* Have a party.
* Start a meetup group.
* Join Toastmasters.
* Inform your peers of one of your goals, such as losing weight.
* Attend networking events.
* Get a group of people together to go out to the movies or to dinner.
* Get some friends together for a poker night.

7. Expect success.

Remind yourself of your successful social interactions in the past. Visualize success in the future. Have high expectations for interactions in all social situations.

Imagine entering a room full of strangers and boldly speaking with the most attractive or influential person there.

The world would truly be your oyster. That confidence would overflow into other parts of your life.

The skills of confident and effective communicators are widely known and available to all.

Get a handle on this important part of your life. Your life will never be the same.

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9 Essential Social Skills You Don't Want to Be Without

You might prefer to stay at home and watch Netflix over going to a party, but social skills are important. Life is more interesting and richer when you communicate regularly with others.

Your life has more possibilities when you have a strong set of social skills. Social skills impact your family, work, platonic, and romantic relationships.

Unfortunately, schools do little to teach social skills. We're forced to experiment or to observe how others do it.

This isn't the most effective approach. Take responsibility for this important skill set and commit yourself to enhancing your social skills.

Strong social skills can positively influence every part of your life.

Consider becoming more adept at these essential social skills:

1. Eye contact.

Eye contact is a demonstration of your self-confidence and social hierarchy. Whether you're speaking or listening, eye contact is important.

Try to find the proper balance between looking someone in the eye and looking elsewhere. Too much of either is less effective.

2. Etiquette.

Your manners matter. Etiquette has two parts: respect and conformity.

Demonstrating proper etiquette for a situation shows respect for those you're communicating with.

It also shows that you know how to behave effectively in a particular social situation.

3. Humor.

Everyone likes to laugh and smile. Learn a few jokes and learn how to laugh easily. It's easy to make a new friend if you laugh together.

Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself. We all do things worthy of a chuckle now and then.

4. Empathy.

You can communicate better with others when you're empathetic. It allows you to adopt a more reasonable and understanding response.

Relate what you're hearing to your own experiences. Be willing to share your own stories. More people will be attracted to you if you learn to be empathetic.

5. Listening skills.

Few things are more important than good listening skills. Listening intently is another way to show respect to others.

People feel important when you pay attention to them. They feel disrespected when your attention wavers.

6. Ask questions.

People love when you show an interest in them. Conversations are easy to maintain if you're able to ask appropriate questions. Asking questions also relieves you of much social pressure.

All you have to do is ask a question and then pay attention to the response. What could be easier?

7. Body Language.

Practicing open and confident body language is good for both of you.

When you appear to be relaxed and confident, others feel more relaxed and confident in your presence.

Appropriate body language is inviting and reassuring to others.

8. Smile.

Would you rather communicate with someone that's smiling or scowling?

A smile lets people know that you're a safe and friendly communication partner. Plus, you'll feel better when you smile.

9. The ability to introduce yourself.

If you can't introduce yourself, you have to sit around and wait for someone to talk to you.

Practice introducing yourself in the mirror, then go find a few victims for practice. With practice, introducing yourself will be second nature.

Consider how your life would be impacted if your social skills were stronger. You'd have more influence at work, more friends, stronger relationships, and more dates.

Social skills are far-reaching. Improving your social skills can improve your life.

Spend a little time each day working on your social skills and notice how your entire life changes for the better.

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Cheers, Helene Malmsio

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